Our Adoption Process

We have received such encouraging feedback regarding our forthcoming adoption! Thank you so much for your prayers and encouragement. It has mean the world to us after the journey God has led us down.

Many of you have asked “Why DSS?” and “Where are you in the process right now?” So, I thought I’d fill everyone in at once! :)

All throughout 2011, we wrestled with the Lord regarding HIS timing and direction on starting the adoption process. We ebbed and flowed from sadness about infertility to being fed up and just wanting to “move on” with adoption.

We pursued international adoption as we have both dreamed of adopting a little girl from China–maybe with special needs? When we discovered that we both had to be 30 (yes, I am married to a younger man) we knew we would be delayed several years…not to mention you have to have a certain BMI (yes, body mass index?!?) and all sorts of other stipulations, plus it was going to cost a significant amount. We checked out a few other countries, yet, again and again, we were discouraged by the price tag and volital nature of the process.

We then attended a private infant adoption workshop assuming that would be the Lord’s will for us, as many of our friends had gone this route. Yet, as we sat through the seminar, nothing moved us toward this and if anything, we were yet again discouraged by the price (not that we are scared of fundraising, because that’s how we make a living!) and by the fact that if we were to conceive in the middle of the process, we would be deleted from their system and would lose any financial investment we had made toward the process.

Our last option, that we said we would “never do”, was through the state of South Carolina Department of Social Services…but we thought we might as well do our due diligence and attend an informational meeting just to say we gave it a chance.

In December, we attended an info session hosted by the *MOST* amazing social worker. She spoke for over 2 hours as both a parent of adopted children and as a social worker who has worked in “the system” for years.

With tears in our eyes, we both were completely convicted and convinced that we were to take a step of faith and give DSS a shot.

Why DSS? Besides the fact that the Holy Spirit made it pretty daggum clear that for now this is the way we are to proceed…

  • *It’s a real live child.
  • *It’s a real live child from a very bad situation (taken from their homes) who would gratefully have a loving family
  • *There is a committee that matches families and children based on their needs and abilities vs. a mom choosing from photo albums or waiting on a list and getting the next baby in line (Nothing wrong with these ways of doing things, of course! It just spoke to us!)
  • *The process is seriously easy-peasy!
  • *It’s FREE!

We turned all our preliminary paperwork into the facilitating social worker that very night, and she said, “Oooooh, mercy! I got 7 little boys for you two!”

We sheepishly laughed…because after hearing for 2 hours that with DSS “if you say 1 child, that means 2, 2 means 3 and 3 means 4!” we didn’t know if she were joking or not! (They say this because if Baby Momma has another baby, you get first dibs to him or her…who knew?!?)

So, since December, we’ve completed:

  1. Info Session 12/7
  2. Application
  3. SLED/Protective Services Authorizations
  4. Fingerprint Report
  5. Discipline Agreement Form
  6. Financial Form
  7. Family History Form
  8. 14 hours of Parenting Classes
  9. Disaster Preparedness Plan
  10. 10-page Autobiographies
  11. Physicals/TB testing
  12. Child Factors Checklist (what we will not take in a child–this was heart-wrenching!)
  13. Openness Checklist (what legal risks you’re willing to take)
  14. Documentation (Birth Certificates, Marriage License, Social Security card, Driver’s Licenses, etc.)
  15. Photos of us and our home
  16. References
  17. Fire Inspection: Scheduled for MONDAY, FEB. 27!!
  18. Department of Health and Environmental Control Inspection: They are running 90 days behind…grrr…we shall see.
  19. Home Study: Will take about a month to complete
  20. WAIT: For who knows how long? Oh, right, the Lord. That’s who :)
  21.  Home Study Approval
  22. GET MATCHED with a referral OR TWO!!!!
  23. Visit with child (INSERT CHILDREN!!!??!!!)
  24. Fall in love
  25. Bring them home August 6th!
  26. Wait for TPR (terminate parental rights)
  27. 30 Day Appeal Process
  28. Meet with lawyers
  29. Adoption Paperwork
  30. Gotcha Day in Court and PARTY AFTERWARD!!!

We have been told that the squeaky wheel gets the oil when it comes to DSS, so you can bet your bottom dollar we will both be making some very politely persistent phone calls along the way!

So, that’s why we chose DSS and that’s where we are in the process. Please pray that we pass the Fire Inspection on Monday and that our DHEC inspection & Home Study take as long or as short as the Lord desires for us to be matched with our little munchkin!

12 thoughts on “Our Adoption Process”

  1. Oh my how I love this update! Ahh you two are going to be such great parents to this sweet child(ren?!). Can’t wait to see how you extend your lovin’ family.

  2. Oh my gracious! We serve such a great God! I love when the Holy Spirit speaks so clearly. His plan is always perfect and I cannot wait to see these Hurdle kiddos! My nephew, who was adopted, always says that there are two different ways to be born, one way is from a momma’s belly and the other is from a momma’s heart <3 Love you guys!

  3. Hey Kitty! I have so enjoyed reading your recent posts about adoption. Dave and I have done a lot of adoption research within the last few years and ran into so many of the same bumps with international adoption as you did. Who knows that the future holds for us, but we hope to one day join you on the adoption journey! Congrats on all the steps you guys have already completed!!

  4. On pinterest as I mentioned I have started a grandchildren board. I hope I do not drive you into insanity with pinnings.
    I love you!
    Momma Bear/GranB

  5. Came across your website from another blog. Praying for you and your family. I know that the Lord has something amazing in store for you. Afterall, his thoughts are greater than ours could ever be. My husband and I are considering DSS in NC and you have moved me toward the process. Praying that tomorrow is a SUCCESS for you!

  6. Wow Kitty. What a journey. I cannot imagine the hills and valleys you have been through. But I know God is great and faithful and sure to bless you in the process. We will keep you both in our prayers!

  7. Well, as a child of adoption, I say: Yippeee! You guys will be wonderful parents! Hang in there, I know the waiting can be very hard. Just imagine, right now God is preparing your child(ren) for you, and you for them. Amazing isn’t it? Prayers headed your way as you wait for God’s timing to have a new family member.

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