This past weekend Joel and I attended FamilyLife’s Weekend to Remember Marriage Conference! FamilyLife is a division of Campus Crusade for Christ (so we–plus the staff couples in this photo– got to attend for free!!)
To be really honest, we arrived at the conference tired from a long semester and a little cranky with each other… we left the conference in teary-eyed bliss!
The first night was the most convicting/encouraging for us. The premise was that “every marriage is either moving toward oneness or drifting toward isolation.” The speaker was HILARIOUS and he challenged us with the 5 threats that can kill a marriage.
- Difficult adjustments-Contrasting backgrounds, differing values, vocations, finances, family history, past relationships, painful experiences, etc. Differing expectations on roles, expressions of love, sexual performance and plans for the future.
- The world’s pattern-our culture’s push for each partner to do 50/50 when God’s Word demands we do 100/100 no matter what.
- Inevitable differences-the certainty of difficulties and problems and the failure to respond properly to these. (suppressing emotions, analyzing, escaping, blaming others, attacking or denial)
- Extramarital “affairs”-any escape from reality or search for fulfillment outside of marriage. (activities affair/entertainment, materialism affair, career affair, family affair, fantasy affair, love affair.)
- Selfishness-Everyone has a natural tendency to be self-centered and destructive in relationships. This makes us focus on and become critical of our spouse’s weaknesses or failure to meet our expectations. Our disappointment and disapproval to our spouse can lead them to feel rejection, discouragement, anger and bitterness, resulting even lower performance. Our selfish nature even seeks to justify our rejection of our spouse or believe that “we deserve better.”
It was SUCH a good weekend to focus on our marriage and have intentional time carved out to talk about our relationship. Plus, we laughed harder than we ever had before and we laughed that hard for the entire weekend!
Who wouldn’t want a good excuse to stay in a posh hotel like this??!! Did I mention that not only did we see the Treece‘s and the Johnson‘s, but we also saw my friend Angie and Ryan from Summer Project in Santa Cruz, CA in 2001!!?? Yea!!
This is our shameless plug to promote this conference. It’s perfect for engaged, newlyweds, parents with little ones and empty-nesters. Its ideal for marriages that are thriving and marriages that are barely surviving. We totally recommend it! Let us know if you would want to find out about getting a discount or taking a group from your church.